I really really don’t want to pry, but without getting into details. Are you currently single? If so, has it been a journey to love yourself while single? I thought I loved myself when I was single and now I’m in a relationship and I love my boyfriend but lately I’ve been stepping back in our relationship to focus on trying reconnecting with myself but I can’t figure it out. I feel stuck. My boyfriend is so supportive but I just feel so lost idk. Any advice?

anastasiatasou:

hey love! i am single and have been since march. it has been a massive journey to love myself, and my break up was honestly the best thing that’s ever happened to me (even though at the time it felt like the worst), because it forced me to love myself. things that helped me love myself outside of a relationship were: acknowledging that the relationship that ended was with an emotionally manipulative person, acknowledging that that person wasn’t good for me or healthy for me to be with (this is obviously just relevant to my own experiences, not saying your boyfriend is bad!), realising that things were not my fault as he made me feel, and letting go of any guilt i was holding pertaining to that. i also found doing things that reconnected me with me helped. like – thinking about what i want from life, finding films I’ve never watched before, noticing how i live and what makes me happy, doing things just for me, no one else. basically taking each day as it comes and treating myself like a friend. i feel like i lost myself and now i know exactly who i am, exactly what i want, and appreciate myself for just being me more than ever. i definitely don’t love myself like that every day, but it’s progress. sorry if this wasn’t much good advice! it is very hard to begin with. take it easy. do things just with yourself, take some time out from the world. you will reconnect with you xxxx